Posted by crushedout on December 20, 2004, at 21:51:03
In reply to Re: Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...no... » alesta, posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 21:37:48
Atticus,I'm not sure I'm any good at this, but I'd like to see if I can help at all. (My first instinct was to mind my own business.)
First, I think "chilly" is taking what Amy said too far. She said "distant," right? I think a lot of that could be related to your obvious intelligence and that makes people feel intimidated. For all you know, Amy is just projecting onto you, and it has nothing to do with you. I think she'd be the first one to agree that that's a possibility (correct me if I'm wrong, Amy). You shouldn't assume that you *are* distant, even if she perceives you that way.
But even if there's a grain of truth in what she said, I don't think it means (in the slightest) that you're failing to connect. I'm sure that's wrong in fact. Jai and amy clearly *do* feel connected to you, *I* felt "connected" enough (or intrigued, anyway) to ask you to meet for coffee, and I'm sure there are others (I don't know you that well).
Please don't regret having ventured into Social. You are an enormously valuable addition to it, and I don't think anyone of us wants to lose you.
just my two cents,
crushedout
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