Posted by jujube on November 10, 2004, at 10:50:57
In reply to Re: Who am I?, posted by alexandra_k on November 9, 2004, at 21:54:48
This is my second post in response to yours. So sorry if I am being repetitive or annoying. I just wanted to say that, personally, I don't think my past defines me. I think it has helped shape me. But I don't think my past is a reflection of who I am now. I've learned from the things I did in the past, and sometimes the lessons were painful. However, if our pasts, with all the mistakes we have made and shame we have felt, defined us, then we would never be able to move forward and grow as human beings, as individuals. We would be stuck in old patterns, with self-defeating thoughts and bitter recriminations.
"Yesterday is irretrievable and tomorrow is unknown. Living in the moment is having the courage to live consciously, with awareness."
Tamara
> Wow, I guess lots of people worry about this stuff.
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> I don't really define myself relationally because I don't feel particularly related.
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> But then I don't really define myself atomistically because I am not stable or constant enough.
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> Whenever I come up with something I think is part of my identity I then reflect on how at other times I act contrary to that.
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> Perhaps I am just predictably unpredictable :-)
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> But then alexandra_k is here (and in the archives) for all the world to see.
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> In sum.
> In total.
> There it is.
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> Don't know how that helps
> I don't know if looking through the archives would help me answer that question...
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> My T says that I am the product of my experiences and so by telling him about my experiences I am telling him who I am.
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> But I hate my past.
> I don't want that to define me.
> Please god.
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