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Being civil can be selfish » JenStar

Posted by AuntieMel on August 31, 2004, at 13:03:04

In reply to Re: The real world vs. the uncivilised world » gardenergirl, posted by JenStar on August 31, 2004, at 11:57:08

This isn't only for Jen - it's just that there was a bit of Jen's post that made me want to say this.

I stay "civil" for my own reasons.

I don't think that in cases like these that I am being altruistic in remaining civil. To me, it's rather like my "you'll never see me cry" extended to "you'll never see me mad" which ultimately goes to "you'll never know you got to me"

Sometimes, when most upset, I could drown from holding my head up.

Occasionally, though not the purpose of behaving this way, there *are* other benefits. Like not feeling like a complete moron when it turns out I was wrong. Not that it happens often;) Or allowing the other person to save face by backing down from a non-fight.

It seems like there is an epidemic of rudeness in the world. I'm just hoping not to get sick, too.

Mel

 

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