Posted by LynneDa on June 9, 2004, at 14:09:15
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on June 9, 2004, at 13:58:38
Geri - you don't need to give yourself a reason to hurt, you already have one!! I know your dad won't listen to you, but I thought you'd made some headway with your mom. Your mom's right - it is very hormone related, but that doesn't solve the problem! You obviously need relief from the hyped up state your hormones put you in. I can totally relate cuz I am on the other end of the hormonal thing and it is no picnic!
Can you write anything down and give it to your mom - being really specific and factual, taking all the feeling words out of it. Like, coming out and asking her what you're doing to cause their behavior & what they expect of you in order for them to change? It's almost like making a contract. If I do this behavior (or don't do a certain behavior), then I get that from you.
I know you're not in any state of mind to think abut any of this right now since it is fresh and you are upset. Really think about what you can and can't abide in their behavior toward you and ask them to do the same about you.
I hope you can write your mom a note. I hope you don't hurt yourself anymore, it's just not worth it sweetie!
Please hang in there and know that in a few years all of this part of your life will be over and you will be on your own, able to make your own decisions and decide what will or will not control you.
Hang in there, I wish I could intercede on your behalf with your parents. I wish there was a teacher or counselor who could too!
Keep writing if it makes you feel better. Maybe try your friend back again. Friends are usually pretty forgiving when there's a new crisis brewing!
{{{{{Geri}}}}}
~ Lynne>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
i9 can't talk to my mom... they don't know what the hell i am feeling.. i tryed to explain to my mom she thinks its hormons. Try to explain to my dad thats real funny. he won't listen to me. I hate him soo much it makes me sick to think about it. i had to relive th pain.. now i can say this is why i hurt!
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