Posted by TexasChic on May 11, 2004, at 16:36:50
In reply to Re: I don't like a lot of people -- Help. » Susan J, posted by B2chica on May 11, 2004, at 15:49:24
Good advice B2!
Yes Susan J, these people do sound annoying. But you don't need us to decide that for you. You feel what you feel, and have every right to do so. I'm the same way – its easy to start questioning yourself when you analyze every feeling like most of us here do. But I've been working on being more assertive, and it really feels great when you begin to take up for yourself. Of course its hard at first, you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But your feelings are important too! Are these people thinking of your feelings when they are hanging around bugging you? Probably not. So you have every right to let them know that you don't have time for them, or that they are distracting you from your work, or whatever the case may be. Some people prey on your kindness and use it against you. I'm not saying in a really bad way (although there are those too), but they know they can over extend their welcome with you and you won't say anything. This may not even be a conscious thing on their part. But you have to trust and honor your feelings. Give it a try. Say whatever you're thinking. What's the worst that could happen? They leave you alone?
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
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