Posted by Emme on May 4, 2004, at 21:07:38
In reply to Emme, I really like that! » Emme, posted by Susan J on May 3, 2004, at 9:37:40
> > "I may be sensitive, Mom, but if you know that, why would you choose to say something that you know will distress me?"
> <<I've never thought of it that way before, if it comes up again, I'll try it. :-) Thanks!My therapist is sharp - she comes up with some great scripts! :)
> <<I don't like yelling, period, but I could handle it if it hadn't been directly *at* me. You know? I've always made a point of being mad at the situation, *not* the person. Well, I might *hate* the person but I'd never address the problem that way....that make any sense?Yeah, that makes sense. I tend to find angry outbursts distressing no matter who they're aimed at, but it's definitely worse when it's directed right at you.
> And I wish my mother could do the same. She had every right to be stressed out over the dog making a mess on her carpet....I just don't wanna be called stupid for it.
Amen. I hope by now it's blown over a bit. When this sort of thing happens, does it make you really apprehensive about your next visit? Ya know, if everybody were sensitive as you are, the world would be a heck of a lot more peaceful. I hope you realize what a good quality you have.
> Thanks again, hope everything is going well with you. I havent' had much time to look at these boards recently.......take care,I haven't posted much for quite a while. My amygdala is running amok and I'm megastressed about life, the universe, and everything. I sleep erratically. I feel perpetually panicked. I had four interviews this month and I didn't perform very well at them. I gotta get my head together and get a job and a life. Ack.
But other than that I'm doing okay. ;) Is work still a bear for you?
Emme
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