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Re: please be civil » Fallen4MyT

Posted by Dr. Bob on April 27, 2004, at 19:42:26

In reply to out on a civility limb on cliques and invisable, posted by Fallen4MyT on April 27, 2004, at 19:18:41

> I could name about 7 people's screen names (BUT WON'T) who never miss a reply to one another's posts this is what I am talking about...yet they miss or ignore a post STARTED by another poster..thats a clique to my knowledge.

I'm glad Spoc's getting support, and I'm sorry if you've felt neglected here, but I also need to ask you not to post anything that could lead others to feel accused -- which can happen even if names aren't named.

If you have any questions or comments about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil

or redirect a follow-up to Psycho-Babble Administration.

Posting something about your own issues and their possible role in your reaction might be an interesting exercise -- and might help others respond to you supportively.

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> some people may need to look at themselves a bit more and see if they may be ignoring others just to post to a few close buddies...I cannot see that as good for anyone..

It could be good for them and their buddies. And being obligated to respond to others could be felt as pressure.

> I really do not think people would post on this so often if it was ALL IN "THEIR" heads...and thats what I myself feel when I see some people have such a strong reaction to this topic as if it is taboo to speak of it...

It might not all be in their heads, but reactions to others can be complicated and at least sometimes influenced by their history, etc... And it's not the topic that's taboo, it's the way of speaking of it.

> frankly I feel at a loss to people who are posting reasons and apologies if its them..the intent is not for that but for some self examination

Maybe people are feeling accused, self-examining, and thinking it might be them?

Bob


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