Posted by All Done on March 10, 2004, at 14:50:33
In reply to Re: Just remember to take care of yourself » Karen_kay, posted by Dinah on March 10, 2004, at 8:44:25
> It's amazing how small doses of my family have such a huge effect on me.
(((((Dinah))))),My heart is just aching for you.
Just the other day I burst into tears because I'm planning a family dinner for next week where I'll see my mom yet she wanted to know if she could see me this week as well and perhaps over the weekend. (Give her an inch and she takes a road trip.) I told her I was busy and then cried on my husband's shoulder about it.
I struggle every day between not wanting my mom to be so dependent on me and loving her. I struggle a lot between being so mad at her I could cry and loving her. I struggle sometimes between thinking I hate her and loving her.
The boundaries I was forced to put in place six months ago have been a godsend for me. Now, I am the one keeping them in place. There are times like the other day when it's difficult, but in the end, I have to to protect my mental health.
I wish I had some practical advice for you. Here's a little one - can you turn off the ringers on your phones during the times you haven't, as I think falls suggested, allocated to family stuff?
Give Harry a big hug for me. He's such a good boy getting along with your mom's dog!
Take care,
All Done
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