Posted by Elle2021 on February 7, 2004, at 3:05:27
In reply to Learning to like yourself, posted by Penny on February 4, 2004, at 15:31:52
> How do you do it?
I'm not sure, but thats a really good question. I would love to know the answer. I have read about a ton of self-help articles that advise us to repeat over and over, "I am worthy of praise, love, and attention." The idea here, is that if you say it and think it enough times you will start to believe it... well, it hasn't worked for me. This is where I start to think about Rod (or Bowtie) because he's always talking about learning to feel like, "enough." That is how I really want to be able to feel. I know that there are some things about myself that I just plain do not like, and may never like, but to feel enough would be so comforting. So how do we go about this? I've been thinking about that question for a long time. I think the first step is to pinpoint exactly what it is that we don't like and why (or how it came to be). That seems like the hardest part. I know for me, it's my body. I am *constantly* comparing myself to every girl that walks by me, (Is she prettier than me, better figure, etc.). I try to correct my thinking and think to myself that I have good points too. A lot of people tell me I'm pretty, but it doesn't seem to matter how many people say it, I just don't believe it. I feel so ugly on the inside, not to mention tired and worn out. I don't like my personality. I feel like I'm selfish, self-centered, rude, etc. I feel like I never say the right thing. I'm starting to ramble...but bear with me. I think this is a question I will ask my therapist next week. Hopefully she will have a good answer for us. But the only problem is, she will start asking me about my body image and what exactly I don't like, and WORST of all the question, "What do you like?" I always feel compelled to give her some answer to that one, but I can't ever come up with anything. Ugh. Well, I let you know what happens.