Posted by Tootercat on February 5, 2004, at 10:55:22
In reply to Re: Learning to like yourself » gardenergirl, posted by Penny on February 5, 2004, at 9:25:16
Geez, I feel right at home. I too have had difficulties with the concept of actually liking myself and *God forbid* loving myself. People will tell me what a kind compassionate loving person I am and I think "Well I've got you fooled". I know I'm smart and clever and witty as those are the traits that have helped me "survive" my life.
Little by little I am moving away from being so critical and angry and that is helping. I am also trying to believe more in "progress" not "perfection" and that allows me to see some of the good things which I haven't because I am not "perfect" at any of them. I never believed I was pretty because nobody was climbing mountains or crawling over broken glass to get to me like they would Tara Banks. I am realizing that I am pretty and that it is something that comes from the inside not the outside. Some days are prettier than others. :)
Ultimately it seems that the more I feel comfortable with ACCEPTING myself and all of my traits the easier it becomes to be comfortable in my own skin and to love myself. I may not always like myself but do we always like even our best friends? No but we accept them. Does any of this make sense?
I don't really know any of you as you seem to know each other as I am a relative "new kid on the block" but I can certainly identify with you and I really appreciate the openess and honesty with which you share your experiences.