Posted by NikkiT2 on January 15, 2004, at 10:52:57
In reply to Re: Embarrassed... Vaginismus (one for the girls!) » NikkiT2, posted by Dinah on January 15, 2004, at 10:34:14
Hi Dinah,
Well, the pain could well be causing vaginismus.. From what the nurse said today, if sex has been painful for you, then when you get close to it, your brain says "this is going to be painful", and thus, vaginisum happens.
If you have the hymenectomy this doesn't mean you have to have sex again remember.. but if you do have it, you could maybe start to enjoy it again over time. The nurse specifically said not to start having penattrative sex again quickly.. it all needs to start again very slowly to re-teach my brain that its all OK and no longer painful.
The nurse was very good, I have to say. She spent 45 minutes with me, showing me the things they'll use for the "stretching" etc. But I was a bit, well, freaked out by it and close to tears the entire time.
I'll let you know how I get on with it all though..
Nikki x
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