Posted by fallsfall on September 17, 2003, at 19:00:28
In reply to Re: Can people change?, posted by Wildflower on September 17, 2003, at 8:54:32
On another note, I'm terrified that he'll find out I'm taking an AD again. Last time I was on them, he insisted that I stop and that meds were for weak people. According to him, he was all I needed. (Yes, he was a controlling person.)
I have such a hard time meeting people (very shy) that's why it's even harder for me to let go of the past.
It isn't his decision whether you should take ADs or not. That is between you and your doctor.If he was controlling and you are shy, that is not a good combination. I was married for 19 years to a man who thought that his job was to only make me happy (if he had to make a decision about something, he would think "What would Fallsfall choose?" and then choose that). I tend to be a bit bossy so we fit wonderfully. Except neither of us were happy. I was overloaded with responsibility, and he was passively agressively showing that he was resentful. I have decided that my next partner needs to be as strong as I am - to balance me. When the marriage started we were closer together, but as the years went on I became bossier and he became more mousey.
Don't stay with him because it is hard to make new friends. If you stay it should be because he is the BEST person for you. If he isn't the best, then staying will (in the long run) be harder than finding new friends.
These are such hard decisions.
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