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Re: You're Most Welcome :-) » octopusprime

Posted by galkeepinon on September 14, 2003, at 19:18:58

In reply to Re:, posted by octopusprime on September 14, 2003, at 12:51:47

I can share with you what I'm learning. Life is about change, and I've learned that it can be good. It is hard, though, still, to start over again at anything, I think. We're used to the 'routine', comfort~whatever you want to call it.
I've learned that there are no guarantees in life, we ALL make mistakes, but we ALL have the choice to forgive and start over~but to mostly forgive OURSELVES:-) There are reasons why we act the way we do. We can't make anybody like us, all we can do is allow ourselves to be liked.
I can relate to your situation concerning friends. I have a few (actually 2) that are a little more than I can handle right now. I love them, I wish nothing but the best for them, however, I have had to step back for a while. I don't know if they will understand that, they seem to think I have no problems. LOL Sometimes we all just need to step back, and wait. I'm learning to find what makes me happy and do it~and it is not easy.
But I hang in, believing and praying I WILL get 'there' someday. But *Life is what happens when you're making other plans* ;)
In giving advice to my 24-year old self, I would probably say, believe in yourself, don't let anyone knock you down, emotionally, verbally, or physically. I would encourage that 'self' to pursue her goals, and persist. Don't allow people to rent space in your head. Remember grace. Always try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Be honest. Be kind. Be loyal. Trust yourself above all!

Hope this helped a little.
(((hugs to you)))


> Galkeepinon, thanks for your support.
>
> It's hard to start all over again, why just last year I started a new job and was "dumped" (not by a lover, but by my former best friend). I hear the just brush yourself off advice from people at work, etc ... but everybody I hear it from either couldn't take the advice themselves or hasn't had to do it :-/
>
> To answer your question, I finished college two years ago and moved across the country soon after I graduated to search for work. After a long stint of unemployment, I found a good job for a year, and this is my second "real job". I am very grateful to be working right now, even if the job isn't perfect! I have tried making friends in this town, but the friends I make move away or have more problems than I can deal with.
>
> I do feel better than I did before - I can sleep nights, leave the house, concentrate on work. But I'm not happy and I wonder if I ever will be. I don't think meds can help with that. I certainly don't blame anybody for needing meds to function though - I know how that feels.
>
> I'm curious - if you could give advice to your 24 year old self, what would you say?


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