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Re: are we a product of our childhood? KimberlyDi

Posted by galkeepinon on August 29, 2003, at 1:18:41

In reply to are we a product of our childhood? galkeepinon, posted by KimberlyDi on August 28, 2003, at 15:35:07

Hi KDi, I believe it-green with envy-I'm not a jealous person at all-BUT I do envy!!!! Sounds like we come from VERY similar backgrounds. My dad was distant, usually gone, and totally unpredictable also. My mother was controlling and manipulative and she still is-and I'm over 30!!! My father was way-above-average intelligence born into a poverty-stricken family, but got into Princeton-but blew it.
With my mom, I was never allowed to be average either-my dad did let me be me though. If I gained even a pound-my mother said 'oh-yer gettin a pooch' (gag me)
Of course, I believe, our parents mold us or whoever our caretakers are-but when we become adults-however that turns out, we do have to take responsibility-I think anyway, for the most part everyone knows that-some may not. It took me a while to realize that. Sometimes I wish I wasn't born, but then other times I think well, I got the hand I was delt, and I can make it a good hand or I can make it a bad hand-it's all up to me! No one else.


I was going to have all the opportunities she never had, whether I wanted them or not. I had to be perfect at everything. I was never allowed to be average. She sure had some mental and control issues. I eloped from college with my first controlling father figure. LOL
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> Did these 2 relationships mold me? Everything that's wrong with me can't be blamed on them. But I can trace alot of it to them. That's were it all began.
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> KDi in Texas
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> Thanks to gabbix2 and galkeepinon for your kind replies. This subject's been on my mind alot because of watching my step-daughter with my husband. He's wrapped around her little finger and she is SO sure of herself and her place in this world. It's stupid to feel anger at her for having what I wanted. Let me tell you, GREEN with envy.
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