Posted by Miller on July 13, 2003, at 16:23:08
In reply to Re: to suicide survivors... » Miller, posted by yesac on July 13, 2003, at 15:47:26
I also read a book about suicide survivors. It wasn't as "happily ever after" as what you read. They interviewed people that had some pretty violent attempts. One lady doused herself with gasoline and set herself on fire. She was concious through the whole thing. She talked about the horrible pain and disfigurement she then had to go through. Another man jumped from a bridge that nobody had ever live through before. Eerybody who jumped died. Except him. He was in a wheelchair the rest of his life.
DDefinately don;t make an attempt just for help. The right people, once you find them, will know your pain without having to see an attempt. I truly wanted to die when I tried. Now my husband can't cope with the fact that I made the attempt. He took it all personally. Who could blame him? If the tables were turned, I think I would also feel devastated.
If you feel you aren't getting what you need, keep looking. There are tons of therapists out there. They are all so different and so diverse, you can have everything you need. You just have to look.
A friend of mine from this board was saying that her therapist has learned how to be more guiding than harsh with her. My therapist knows I need a "sting" of reality to get myself going. She could never take to my therapist and I would never take to hers. Yet, to hear us talk, they are the only two therapists worth having :)
Yesac, don't make an attempt. And, a couple of days in a hospital trained for these illnesses can do wonders. Trust me. I would be worm food right now if I hadn't spent a few days in the hospital and if my therapist didn't adapt to my needs.