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Re: spent weekend with friend- LONG POST

Posted by bookgurl99 on June 30, 2003, at 18:04:52

In reply to Re: spiritual crisis vs. psychotic behavior?, posted by justyourlaugh on June 26, 2003, at 0:09:13

I spent the weekend with my friend. In some ways it was a relief to be with her and see how 'normal' she is and how fun it is to be with her despite her newfound (somewhat illogical) ideas.

There were some strange moments.

When we exited a store, instead of turning to the right (the way we had come and had parked), she said "I like to take different ways," and led us left around the building, the longer way back to her car.

Back home, she asked -- what if the government is putting subliminal thoughts in the air, or in music in stores? What kind of thoughts, I asked, you mean Big Brother thoughts like "Believe the president. Buy more. Help the economy?" She said no, like maybe the government wouldn't want people to like someone and give them thoughts telling them not to be kind to someone, stuff like that. Hmm.

Then later, I asked why she picked the church she's going to, and she said "I don't know if I should tell you. . . I . . felt led to it." But she was being evasive.

She also really wanted to avoid going out, and took insignificant things (like the new neighbor playing music too loud) as being _personally_ directed at her.

In some ways, her thoughts remind me of when I had severe OCD, except for the tendency to personalize everything as directed at her. At that time, I was vigilant and hyper-aware of threats, but I viewed the threats as threats to all people, not just myself.

What left me dismayed was that our good friend, the one with an MSW, said that she couldn't have schizophrenia because she's too old -- 30 -- for the onset of symptoms. He doesn't want to get involved, because he says that -- she said something similar happend at a younger age -- perhaps she's just having a brief break and will return to reality soon. But I feel that it would be useful to her to know that she takes these breaks, and that as the professional health worker he's the one who could convince her to get help.

I feel that he's in denial, because -- like me -- he really disapproves of anti-psychotics. Their long-term effects are so negative, and they are not really necessary for those who have brief episodes.

I feel caught in a moral dilemma here.


> wow,,
> have you considered contacting one of her family members?...you need to tell them..

I could easily track down her parents or siblings. I am not sure how to tell them. Also, they are highly religious and are likely to take this as a sign from God that she is not meant to be involved with her live-in boyfriend, a sweet, intelligent, non-Catholic, 'colored' boy they disapprove of. I would hate to administer that sort of chaos.


> if they are not around and you are "really" close ,i think its your duty to give her some reading information/at least/...
> and make her see her family doc...then it will become the docs duty to proceed,,,and you can be there for her if she falls...:)
> j

hmm. . well, she is several hours away, but other supportive friends are near. we have sort of agreed to be there if something develops here. to be a web of support.

i wonder if i could cut and paste some info on it and send it to her. i fear losing her friendship, though. she is also likely to weave me in to the 'conspiracy' against her if i bring this up; i'm scared that she could return to normal but never forgive me.

aaugh. what to do, what to do.



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