Posted by Dinah on May 25, 2003, at 21:00:40
In reply to be gentle with me- is this my ocd?, posted by babs on May 25, 2003, at 18:28:33
> It's so bad that I'm not even thinking about the fact that my mom died- all I can do is think about whether or not I "really" love him.
>Hi Babs,
You know, sometimes I wonder if OCD has a purpose. If it keeps us from thinking about what is unthinkable by focusing our minds on something else. At least I suspect that that is sometimes the case for me.
Noa is right. There is no need to decide whether you really love him right now. I dated my husband thirteen years trying to make sure that he was the right guy for me. I'm not advocating *that*, but there's no hurry.
And an increase in Risperdal might help.
But most of all be gentle with yourself. Quit beating yourself up about obsessing about it. If the thoughts come, they come. They may or may not mean anything. They may be something you need to do to blunt the impact of your mother's death until you are ready to deal with it. And then of course, stress of any kind exacerbates OCD. Absolve yourself of responsibility for the thoughts. Try to accept that they just *are*, like the weather. And talk to a good therapist about it. I've found that obsessive thoughts grow stronger by a) secrecy and b) fighting them.
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