Posted by mikhail99 on January 17, 2003, at 9:26:54
In reply to What's it mean to you to feel close to someone?, posted by ROO on January 17, 2003, at 8:48:49
> That's my question for the day...I'm interested to
> hear what different people on this board have to
> say.Roo, it's too early for that kind of deep question! :-)
Do you mean what kind of criteria must be in place for one to feel close to someone? For me, it's about being understood and loved despite all that's wrong with me. That I can voice my fears, feelings and neurosis (and there's a lot of those) and the other person will still find me likeable. And the other person can communicate with me and let me know what they need from me. That they can be open to being loved and allow me to see all of them.
No pressure there, right? :-)
Having said all that, it's got me wondering if I don't have unattainable expectations? I don't really feel that with many people except maybe my sister. I'm starting to believe that my husband I and don't share the same expectations for a marriage. We're more like roomates. sigh.
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