Posted by IsoM on September 14, 2002, at 13:03:49
In reply to Re: lowered expectations... » IsoM, posted by Dinah on September 14, 2002, at 10:52:58
THAT I can agree with, Dinah. It's just that I have high expectations for myself & most others that I know fairly well. Don't get me wrong, it's not like being a perfectionist. It's knowing what I, or someone else, is capable of & trying to encourage the best that's possible.
Now, it's also very realisitic to know that no one is totally even & balanced all the time. There's bad days, & many inexplicable causes for someone to be off for an hour, a day, a week, or even more. It's difficult to know why one feels this way from time to time.
But it's knowing the capacity of all that's good & positive in a person & working to make the most of it. Something akin to reinforcing the positives & ignoring the normal everyday negatives (unless there's *truly* constructive criticism that might help).
Perhaps I have a good outlook as the small disappointments aren't really disappointments, just understanding that nothing's perfect. It doesn't cause me pain. Depression & screwy neural wiring are my problems. My mental outlook, fortunately, seems healthy & good and are my strong points.
It's just that, naively, I had hoped for something much more positive from PB initially.
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