Posted by Fi on April 12, 2002, at 17:05:15
In reply to Breaking up is hard to do, posted by hmt on April 12, 2002, at 15:54:16
I havent experienced this personally, but have heard of similar experiences. Seeing the counsellor as a loving parent can be a completely normal part of some therapy. But what *should* happen ideally is that you then get the confidence, with the support of your counsellor, to build up your independence from them again.
So you have the experience of the closeness and security, but arent dependant on the counsellor to be OK- you are more self- sufficient.
Seems that second bit didnt happen in your case,for whatever reason. So understandable it was really painful.
As an outsider, it makes me wonder if the counsellor couldnt have handled it better- she would know what was happening, and that the time was definitely limited, and should have had the skills to try and help you move on.
But that is a comment as an outsider- it may have been more complicated.
Sounds tough- take care.
Fi
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