Posted by Fi on March 9, 2002, at 13:33:44
In reply to Re: How can I stop being a hermit?, posted by sar on March 8, 2002, at 10:09:13
I'm another one. I confess!!
A lot of the comments already posted look good. I would agree how people dont necessarily socialise after classes- I've been to quite a lot over the years. As has already been said, you need to go because you are interested in the class.
I would add that studying- if you have the time, interest, fees and energy, is another option. I did a short Open University course which included meeting up regularly in a tutorial group, which went well.
Tho it was the same as work friendships, in that it only lasted as long as the course. Tho the friends I have now include 2 who are ex-colleagues. Are there any current colleagues you can socialise with? If the evenings are complicated by peoples' childcare etc, you can still have lunch breaks together.
Voluntary work is a particularly good idea, as you have time to chat (which you dont in classes). If you have the energy to do it, tho.
I noted that you said you wanted *new* friends, rather than the ones you have already. Obviously, you know better than anyone else, but are the current friends a complete waste of time? Personally, I can be too fussy.
I think the mobility of people has a lot to do with the change, particularly in big cities. You have more chance of building up a network of friends if you spend your life in the same small town, I would guess. I wouldnt do any more socialising without a computer, by the way- this is extra!
Good luck with whatever you decide to try!
Fi
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