Posted by Gracie2 on February 24, 2002, at 1:25:59
In reply to i can't stay away!, posted by sar on February 14, 2002, at 15:30:04
NO NO NO.
The alarm bells must be shrieking in your pysche.
A guy who moves in like this is, in my long and practical experience, a sleeze. I detect mid-life crisis, a painful and debilitating experience. Their usual ploy is to move in, start with the flowers and the cards and the clandastine lunches and secret meetings. To invite this into your life is a recipe for heart-ache. He wines and dines and send flowers and expensive gifts. Once you are hooked , he starts with the usual promises to leave his wife and family someday, whcih rarely happens. He keeps you twisting like a fish on a hook, throwing you tidbits of jewelry
and roses and candies to keep your interested, down-playing the relationship he has with his family and often bouying you with promises, again, to leave his wife...someday, as soon as the financial situation is straightened out, as soon as his kids are grown, as soon as he can afford to give you the life you live. In the meantime, you live a life of quiet desperation...waiting by the phone, waiting for the mailman in case there is a letter from him with all his false assurances, hating yourself at night for being an adultress. Your self-esteem plummets and you're plaqued by guilt and self-doubt. It's a nasty, self-defeating way to live.
I dispise adultery.