Posted by ST on February 15, 2002, at 6:34:00
In reply to Re: Man's Opinion » Mr. Scott, posted by Reneeb on February 14, 2002, at 20:49:57
Please be careful. You're going to be in this guy's home...you've been in his car? I just think no matter how much he helps you, it's not worth the price of you always having to be on your toes, on your guard, waiting for the other shoe to drop. I, too, have been laughably, pathetically broke before and have been tempted by gifts and promises. IsoM is right! Be blunt and ask: "What's in it for you?" Because everyone does something to receive in return. Maybe he IS getting the satisfaction of helping someone in return.
If you want to take these jobs, I would insist on an informal contract of sorts. Ask him, point blank, why he's being so nice. Make it clear that you have no intention of offering him anything beyond a working relationship. If you make this clear in the beginning, he can never pull the "well-why-else-do-you-think-I've-been-doing-all-this-for-you-and-why-won't-you-have-sex-with-me" act.
Sorry if I sound bitter. I've seen some naive friends get sucked in to bad situations. I'm an actress, my friends are actresses...and you get weird older men thinking you'll be delighted at their help while they expect a bl*w j*b in return.
Be careful and keep us posted!!