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I hate this....!

Posted by cmcdougall on December 13, 2001, at 13:25:54

In reply to Re: Thanks, posted by JohnDoenut on December 13, 2001, at 11:32:11

Hi John,

I DO have ADD and it really impacts my life in a negative way. I read "Driven to Distraction" when it first came out and took ritalin for about 7 years - 20mg/3xday. It really helped with concentration, but did nothing for motivation - instead of doing what I needed to, I would just veg out on a good book or find ANYTHING else to do.... Its like I have an aversion to doing what I'm supposed to. Usually, a deadline will whip me into shape - I do some of my best work under pressure :-). Lately I don't even care about deadlines - haven't filed state and federal tax reports from 3rd qtr, been fined, still don't care.

I have taken adderall now for about 1 week (along with other meds for depression) and like it much better that ritalin. I just wish I could make myself take care of my responsibilites - I NEED a swift kick in the butt.

I HATE all of this - I know I have to do things; don't do them; lie to my husband about it; feel guilty and worthless; resolve to do better tomorrow; and here we go again..... Its like I'm stuck in neutral. My wonderful pdoc has been acting as a coach (kinda expensive tho). Shoot - I could be somebody else's coach, I know what to do! Its just finding a way to make myself do it. I will continue to struggle w/ my day planner and my lists. The crazy thing is, when I DO accomplish a task on my list, I feel great. You would think this kind of positive consequence would be self-motivating, but not for me...

If only there was PA - Procrastinators Anonymous. I could go to weekly (or daily) meetings and have a sponsor to call if I start vegging out :-).

Carly

> Its interesting that you bring this up. I think procrastination, that is long term chronic procrastination is a real problem and many people dont know how to deal with it. I found out that mine was related to ADD. I read a really good book called "Driven To Distraction" which talks about this very subject and how to work around it and get organized. Even if you dont have ADD (which you may want to look into as ADD can be a cause of depression) its a very good read with good ideas. Here are some things you can do. Get a coach or join a support group to help you stay on target. Im not sure if insurance will pay for a coach or not. Try different methods of organizing and find out what works best for you and then do that. Find out what you can delegate to someone or something else so you dont have to worry about it as much. Try white boards, lists, and the like. Then take time to do one small task. Break it all down into smaller tasks so that it doesnt seem so overwhelming on the whole.
> And also see if you can get on some sort of stimulating med to help with motivation and energy factors.
>
> Let us know how it goes.
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> JohnD.
>
>
> > I appreciate your response - its funny, but I already have that book, The Tao of Cleaning. It is a good book, but I haven't had the motivation to use it yet.... ;-)
> >
> > Carly


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