Posted by Marie1 on September 29, 2001, at 15:47:24
In reply to Re: Terror's emotional effects » Dinah, posted by sar on September 29, 2001, at 11:52:13
Sar,
You are absolutely right - what you wrote in this thread is totally appropriate. You are being honest and open about your feelings. I apologise if I came across as being judgemental (actually I regretted posting as soon as I did. Where's the "undo"??). I was sincerely trying to understand how you felt - I'm a good one for wearing someone else's moccasins. And I think maybe I get it now. It's like how I quit wearing my seatbelt when at the worst in my illness. It's so hard to give a sh*t about anything. And physical proximity probably does count for some emotions. It makes me cry to read of a neighbor I didn't really know who was on the flight that crashed into the Pentagon. I truly don't think I could cope with body parts strewn over my neighborhood. And in all honesty- now don't get mad (:-)- I think age may be a factor here, too. I think as we get older, we hopefully become more compassionate and more aware of the fragility of the short time we spend here. (Please don't take that to be patronizing; I really don't intend it to be.)
Again, I'm sorry that I put you on the spot and that you felt the need to defend yourself. Take care, Sar.
Marie> Dinah,
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> thank you for your kind understanding. it really pleases and amazes me that you can respnd with such empathy even though you feel completely differently than i do about what is, i agree, a national tragedy.
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> you did not contribute at all to my distress. it makes me feel a little bit lighter knowing that some understand.
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> intellectually, i can envision the photos i've seen, feel bad at the sheer magnitude of the numbers of people who died such gruesome deaths, i can think about all of this in my head, it just hasn't travelled down to my heart yet. my stomach only feels bad because i don't feel anything.
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> thank you.
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> sincerely,
> sar
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