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Re: Why can't I ever remember the lessons I learn????

Posted by medlib on November 10, 2000, at 20:29:19

In reply to Re: Why can't I ever remember the lessons I learn????, posted by Racer on November 10, 2000, at 19:25:52

> The deep question above wasn't really the literal one, why must this client be SUCH an idiot, but the underlying one: I know that trying to avoid conflict always gets me in trouble, while speaking up for myself avoids that trouble. Why, then, do I constantly forget that lesson and try to avoid trouble by clamming up?

*** Because you learned 2 contradictory lessons, 1 from your mother and 1 from Reality--and mothers outrank Reality every time. (They were, after all, the first Reality.)

> Secondary question: do any of you have similar questions you've had to learn and relearn over and over?

*** Of course! My unlearned lesson is: Reality, however bad, is never quite as bad as my avoidance of it.

> Tertiary* question: Why can't we ever get it drilled into our heads and save ourselves the frustration of having to learn it unpleasantly over and over and over again?

*** To address such imponderable issues, I have formulated medlib's Law of Least Effort: "The only *truly* Irresistable Force is Inertia." Or, phrased colloquially, "When in doubt, Don't." This law seems to apply to all circumstances (at least for me).

Thanks for the thought-provoking questions!

Well wishes---medlib




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