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Re: Gray Rape PollyFarm fleeting flutterby

Posted by Gabette on January 2, 2009, at 20:51:30

In reply to Re: Gray Rape, posted by fleeting flutterby on December 31, 2008, at 18:13:59

I agree, totally, rape is rape, not date rape, not grey rape..

If the anger contains threats, yes I'd agree it's rape.


He's insensitive.. YES

It's painful to feel you have to have sex to appease, and are left crying.. it's devastating, soul destroying I've been there.
But.. if you have sex with him if you "give in"
it's NOT rape.

If you didn't "give in" what would happen?
If it's a matter of dealing with a sulking
lout for a while, it's not in the rape catetory.
Giving in is only encouraging his behaviour.

If you give into a child if they whine long enough it only teaches them if they keep whining they'll get what they want.

And if you feel you can't say "NO" because you don't want to upset him, because he'll leave you,
or you can't stand his bad mood, then there are deep problems that need to be examined so you develop or maintain, an independent sense of self worth



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