Posted by ClearSkies on July 31, 2007, at 19:01:51
In reply to Re: Yesterday had some very ugly bits TRIGGER » clearskies, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 31, 2007, at 13:29:11
> That sense of FIGHT is why he's your Ex-husband. I only wish it were possible to divorce one's parents.
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Yes, that's very true. I was married for 18 years, though. It took me a long time to learn to fight.
And I do think there is something to be said for divorcing ourselves in the emotional sense from our parents. Making ourselves absent from their lives - for our own good - for however long it takes for us to heal. Not going home for holidays, or being present for anniversary parties. I have "divorced" myself from my mother in the past, and it has helped me. (My father is deceased.)She never noticed that I wasn't there, either. Living many miles away, or not being able to afford to travel have been convenient, if barely true, reasons that have helped me keep my distance. It's a constant struggle, because I wish I had that "Mom", you know, that everybody else seemed to have? (But nobody else apparently did?)
Take care of yourself, LlurpsieNoodle. Tonight I increase my Remeron dosage and am looking forward to being less lethargic in the days ahead.
cs
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