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Re: Can i burden my 78 year old father with problems?

Posted by alexandra_k on August 18, 2017, at 17:19:37

In reply to Re: Can i burden my 78 year old father with problems?, posted by Lamdage22 on August 3, 2017, at 5:54:34

If your Father thinks you should just suck it up then he might not be the best person to talk to about it (nevermind his age).

My Mother often isn't the best person for me to talk to about various things. My bicycle got stolen. Of course I had an unpleasant response when I discovered that and so on. I worked through it. I dread telling her it got stolen because then I'll be expected to try and help her work through her own unpleasant response to it... More trouble than it's worth, in other words.

He probably just doesn't know what to do.

My experience with communal living is that nobody will do anything unless:

1) There is a system where it is clear what a person is expected to do and when they are expected to do it and accountability for their having done it. E.g., a chore wheel.

2) A particularly 1/2 day or evening where people get together for communal chores (good will can be higher if it culuminates in a shared meal).

3) An externally contracted cleaner.

It might be especially hard getting people to do things if a side-effect of medication is general lethargy / if they are kinda depressed.

It's hard feeling like you have to live in other people's filth. I can resonate with that, rather.


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