Posted by Dinah Seeks Support on March 12, 2014, at 0:43:46
In reply to Re: He's not dying, posted by Willful on March 11, 2014, at 9:51:59
But if a relationship can end that easily, is it actually a real relationship? I struggle with that. I really do. People can drift apart or move apart, but that just means they don't see each other often. I retain my good feelings about high school friends. Some I contact now and then. I'm considering facebook to see if I can keep in touch with what's going on with them. Other more casual friends are still very welcome when I happen to run into them.
The relationship doesn't just cut off entirely. There isn't the sense that we're never supposed to contact each other.
How can that really be a real caring relationship?
I veer between just being happy he's not dying, to being shocked that I can't contact him and tell him how happy I am that he's not dying. One moment he seems like someone who was part of my life a long time ago. The next minute I'm shaking and trying not to howl at the unfairness. One moment I'm feeling sorry for him, the next I am just totally baffled as to how this could happen.
It's more complicated, somehow, than traditional mourning.
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