Posted by Dinah on July 31, 2012, at 8:26:10
In reply to first ever session, and my therapist cried, posted by froyo on July 30, 2012, at 18:49:38
I can honestly say that my therapist has never come near to crying in my sessions.
My inclination would be to be afraid that she didn't have very good ego boundaries. As you said, you really weren't on such terms as to make that level of empathy understandable. I'd be wondering which of my experiences roused memories of her own experiences. Or echoed her own issues? Is it empathy? Or is it an intrusion of her own experiences into therapy?
I would probably not want to go back. But then I fully admit that my therapist is not the teensiest bit touchy/feely, although he can be understanding and warm. He probably errs, if at all, in the other direction. I think I feel more comfortable, if I cry, to have a therapist who appears strong and able to tolerate my feelings. That may be a personal preference on my part based on rather reactive parents. What is your preference? How do you feel about her reaction?
If it makes you uncomfortable, are there any other alternatives at your school?