Posted by Willful on July 29, 2012, at 11:41:43
In reply to Re: Wanting to terminate, again, posted by Tabitha on July 27, 2012, at 23:28:38
It's an interesting dilemma, Tabitha, and is an example why it's an issue if a therapist and patient don't share the same core beliefs--or beliefs on an important issue. When someone is has a physical problem and a therapist has a lot of dubious-- or irrational-- ideas-- it's inevitable that she's going to want to help you by telling you what her beliefs would dictate. But if you don't believe in chakras, or astrology, or numerology--or who knows? what-- and she does-- it's going to be a moment of breakdown of what therapy really relies on- which is the therapist's wisdom in living.
She could be dangerous to a patient who was susceptible to her ideas-- which thankfully you aren't. But still, it's going to be a sticky subject-- which at the moment, is really unfortunately a paramount one for you. --This is even more true if she considers it resistance, as opposed to a legitimate belief system which needs to be respected--completely-- and at this point made a priority. How can she help you with your feelings about treatments etc, if she worries that you haven't taken off your diamond ring-- or that you need to fix your root chakra or so forth? How do you feel in not taking off your diamonds-- when she's explicitly told you that could make you sick? That puts you in such a bad position-- feeling somehow that the diamonds are a symbol or cause of something-- and also that wearing them is a direct rejection of her advice. You were even considering taking them off-- even though you didn't want to, and it would hurt your husband. People wear these things because they have a lot of meaning-- and don't take them off easily. It puts you on a bad footing with her-- and for me, would make me uneasy about the diamonds, despite my rational self.
-- if she hasn't been able so far to put aside her ideas-- certainly now she'll feel pressure to "help" you by putting them out there.
It looks like it could be a really troubling issue-- as you need to rely on her to be there 100% for you in this challenging situation-- .
I have to tell you too that although the money situation is resolved, it seems enough of a violation to me to be a continuing problem that she could handle the money that way unilaterally. Where is the respect? Where is the sense of boundaries? How does she see you that she could even begin to take the money? Particularly as you've been talking about ending?
If you were getting a great deal from her-- of course-- all of that could be handled- although I guess I wonder where her pseudoscience ends and her commitment to science begins-- but if you're at odds with her-- or doubting the value of your work-- I guess I would see these as long=term and very troublesome indications of a bad fit. Which may be the last thing you need now.
On the other hand, breaking off a supporting and very long relationship may also not be a good thing-- but it is a dilemma that I'm sorry you're in-- given how difficult things are now.
As I write, I wonder how are things going on the medical front? Are you feeling ok? is your energy and are your spirits rebounding?
all the best-- Willful