Posted by Dinah on June 27, 2012, at 9:45:45
I've been feeling a bit like Tabitha's post about termination lately. Not that my therapist is trying to keep me in therapy or comparing me to my mother (what a below the belt shot!!). But the transference seems to be shifting sometimes to an older slightly goofy brother one. His interventions lately have been a bit ill considered lately. Just in a thoughtless goofy guy way.
I pointed this out to my therapist yesterday, and reminded him of things he used to do that he doesn't do so much anymore. After talking about it and thinking about it he said one of those truly insightful things that he sometimes says, that I've found so helpful when applied to me. He said "I suppose if I'm to be a good therapist/mommy, I can't forget the therapist part of it." And his attitude shifted for the rest of the session to a more.... hmmmm.... authoritative? one. I'm not sure of the word. It was a subtle shift, but an important one.
I was reminded again, not only of his sudden moments of insight and incisive way of communicating them, but also of his willingness to consider his own role in our interactions and to make course corrections as needed - if he decides I'm correct. He wasn't at all defensive, just thoughtful.
He really is good at ah-hah moments, and I'm glad he also applies them to himself.