Posted by Tabitha on May 12, 2012, at 2:27:27
In reply to On a slightly different note, posted by Dinah on May 10, 2012, at 9:56:06
It seems like a form of kindness to see her as powerful at this stage in her life. You might instead see a pretty helpless old woman.
My mother was the opposite of engulfing. At least that's how I saw her. Very difficult to ever ascertain her "will". Then again she probably had some skill at manipulation. Wasn't that the accepted style for women to exercise power back in her day? Get your way, without actually appearing to assert your will.
I feel I understand her more as I age. Perhaps just projection, made easier by her absence.