Posted by raisinb on March 25, 2012, at 19:09:20
In reply to sick to death, posted by g_g_g_unit on March 24, 2012, at 23:27:59
If you can't leave, and you can't have a productive conversation or interaction with her, you will need to completely disengage. Whatever she says, say okay and agree. Do not listen, get upset, or respond. Accept that she will not understand and that you will not get anywhere with her.
It's passive-aggressive, but it's the best solution in your situation, I think. It's what I did with my old therapist after years of toxic interactions, in the months while I gained strength to leave.
She might act out more outrageously when you detach in order to get your attention; my guess is that she may thrive on pushing some of your buttons, and she'll go through an "extinction burst" when you refuse to have them pushed.