Posted by Dinah on March 15, 2012, at 10:18:00
In reply to I'm Stuck!!, posted by Daisym on March 13, 2012, at 20:47:46
Do you feel like a teen whose parent is trying to keep them attached while you want to be more independent and keep your thoughts private? I have a teen right now, and I can tell there are things he genuinely wants to keep private as opposed to things he feels inhibited sharing. It's not always easy telling which is which. :)
Or do you feel like he's pressing you to say something you're not quite ready to say?
In either case, maybe your therapist does need to back off a bit. I know sometimes when my therapist is pushing me a bit too much, I point out that his hurry seems to be more about him than what's best for me. He wants something for or from me more than I want it for myself. That rarely works out well for us. He's good about backing off then, and accepting me where I am. At which time I paradoxically wish to share what I didn't want to share when he was pushing.
You're inside you. What does it feel like to you? Is he encroaching or is he pushing (as opposed to accepting)?