Posted by pegasus on December 15, 2011, at 8:10:16
In reply to Re: Maybe TMI from T?, posted by Daisym on December 14, 2011, at 14:57:19
Thanks, Daisy, for your insights. They're really helpful, as usual.
I am not sure yet how I feel about whether this was too much sharing, in general. A lot of the work I've been doing lately is around figuring out how to trust him. I know I would have a hard time trusting someone who *wouldn't* share things about himself. In fact, I've ditched Ts for that in the past. And yet, I wasn't prepared for this. So, maybe the sharing is good, but I needed more help with it, or preparation for it, or something. I agree that I seemed to have a shock reaction.
He said that he had thought quite a bit about whether to share this with me. I'm interested to know why he decided to do it. It seemed rather planned. I'm sure he guessed that I'd ask questions, if he mentioned having had difficult times.
I think I will try to discuss my reaction with him. I'm thinking that I might be able to take in my post and read it to him. I may also read your response, because I'd like to hear what he'd say about it.
One thing I do trust about him is that he can take that kind of conversation without getting defensive.
- P
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