Posted by TherapyGirl on November 12, 2011, at 20:15:29
In reply to Re: Need Advice *****Likely Trigger*****)Everyone » Solstice, posted by Dinah on November 12, 2011, at 15:23:09
You bring up really good points and, as always, I appreciate hearing how your T would handle this. You are correct that my real T didn't always get it right. I still don't know if I can get over this, but I guess it would be interesting to hear her take on it. I will say that this one is harder to walk away from than the first not-my-T.
The first one emailed me in response to a message I left her canceling my appointment because I was on my way out of state on the day my father died. I knew at that point that he was going to die and I told her that in the message. When I got home from the hospital, 1 hour after his death, I had an email from her which I opened because I thought it was sweet, that she had sent something supportive. Instead, it said, "I got your message and sorry about your father," and then she launched right into an insurance billing issue that was largely her own fault. That was just it for me. I emailed her later that week and told her I wouldn't be back and she emailed back and said okay and I've never looked back.
This one I had high hopes for. I started seeing her in early March, 1 week after my father's death. It's been very slow and the walls are high. They had just started coming down in the last few weeks, but I'm really still very horrified by her reaction to this situation. I'm going back and forth between "building my case" against her (a bad habit I have when I'm angry with someone) and wanting her to fix this. I pulled out her policies last night and they are written that she will disclose information about me if I'm a danger to myself or others (completely agree) or if she has EVIDENCE that a child or an elder is being abused (no mention of people with disabilities and she didn't have evidence). So I'm not happy about the trigger-happiness she displayed.
It's making me crazy though. I want to talk to real T about it, but of course I can't. That makes me crazier.
Thanks for the support and helping me think this through, Dinah.
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