Posted by Solstice on October 1, 2011, at 7:33:30
In reply to Re: shutting my T out, posted by annierose on September 30, 2011, at 20:38:04
My therapist has stood by, and has hung in there with the *brat* in me too... and T`s ability to not let the threats to the relationship threaten the relationship.. is exactly why I`ve been able to progress. From it, I`ve learned to believe (at least most of the time) that I`m worth it.Solstice
> All I can say, I've been there. Sometimes the teenager wants to say "F you" to our therapists even though they sit there with open arms. Maybe we're angry because they are making us do the growing up, hence the work ... and we want someone to take care of us and/or our needs ... "to make it all better" so to speak. A teenager needs to push away and figure out stuff on their own, coming back to the nest now and again for reassurance.
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> My best advice - that I do follow myself - despite the urge to cancel (even for the good reasons like work or family) I go. I go and tell her exactly (mostly) what I'm feeling. Sometimes those sessions go terribly wrong because I push too much (I have a strong personality and my t is so kind and gentle .. I think I'm a handful for her - she's admits I'm a handful but insists I'm not too much for her). Other times, the teenager accepts the kindness and love and relaxes - and balance returns. It is hit or miss but the only way to the other side is through.
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> Good Luck ... don't be too hard on the 14 year old inside of you. She probably needs lots of loving attention and a hug.
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