Posted by Dinah on March 10, 2011, at 10:12:29
In reply to Met with New, New T Today, posted by TherapyGirl on March 9, 2011, at 14:26:16
That sounds very promising. I too like an older therapist, even if only slightly older (4 years in the case of my therapist), and definitely calm. T2 wasn't calm? Part of what I like best about my therapist is his imperturbability.
I still have bad feelings towards my mother regarding her behavior at the end of Daddy's life. I try to find some compassion for her by thinking how frightened she must have been and how her behavior could have stemmed from that fear. But given some of what she did, that hardly seems adequate. I'm sorry you had a similar experience.
I think it's good that you're thinking of how he would have been without her. I am struck sometimes with the idea of the sacrifice Daddy made in staying with my mother. At one or two points he was ready to move out, but he recognized that realistically speaking that meant leaving us with her. Not only did he not want to lose living with us, but he also didn't want to leave us with her as the only primary parent. Not that he was by any means perfect himself. Far from it. But I think he'd have been happier if he hadn't had to live with my mother. Was your father at work a lot?
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