Posted by Daisym on November 9, 2010, at 17:04:49
Lonely -
Is this a feeling state that can persist despite a reality check that says one has lots of relationships? Can you keep yourself lonely and if so, what are the secondary gains from doing so? (besides safety, which seems obvious.) Is there a difference between being alone and feeling alone?
My therapist doesn't "miss" often but he sure did yesterday. We'd talked off and on last week about how alone I was feeling right now. And he said yesterday that he'd been thinking about this because it seemed to him that I had "lots" of relationships - including one with him - so I wasn't as alone as I thought I was. Or something like that. What I heard was, "you aren't really lonely, you just think you are. You need to stop thinking like that." So of course, I'm now beating myself up for wanting more than I have. And I've pushed those feelings underground so I'm "fine."
No really - I am. Just fine. Sad - but fine.
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