Posted by Solstice on November 6, 2010, at 18:32:37
In reply to Re: Foot in mouth - Funny (but not) therapy story, posted by Dinah on November 6, 2010, at 17:36:34
> There's no point in my having any other kind of reaction. It wouldn't gain me anything.
> He clearly feels bad about it. And I forgive him, if forgiveness is even needed. It'll just be a hard thing to forget. It's easier to find it funny.
:) and he pro'ly didn't mean it like it came out. Like you pointed out, though, those particular words went like an arrow to a very vulnerable spot for you. How do you forget the words? How do you prevent it from augmenting sensitivities that didn't need to be augmented? That's where I'll keep my fingers crossed that he will feel bad enough to wrestle with it in his mind and heart and eventually come up with something therapeutically heroic to deflate the power of those particular words on a vulnerable place in your heart. It's not about perfection... rather it's the 'care' that fuels the effort to bind a wound one caused.