Posted by jane d on November 20, 2009, at 11:11:53
In reply to Sliding towards meltdown, posted by Dinah on November 20, 2009, at 8:17:02
I don't suppose mom could be sent on a long long cruise? Or perhaps a multi year contract teaching English abroad?
Failing that, I wonder if you could find someone to consult with specifically about her. If her problems are a combination of who she always was and the aging process both you and your therapist may tend to focus on the "she always was like that" part because you've both known her so long. Perhaps an outsider could see where aging is the problem and even have suggestions. It's a strange idea that she might be getting more "normal" as she gets older and her peer group catches up with her.
And perhaps bringing someone else in would let you use your therapist to help you deal with the strain of managing her instead of figuring out the how tos of it.
And don't give up on avoidance. It's a great strategy that we're meant to use to get out of the way of danger.
Perhaps your whole family would like to spend a few years working overseas?
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