Posted by elizabeth31 on October 10, 2009, at 23:08:35
Let me first start off by saying I don't want to offend anyone nor mean any harm by my question, but after reading all the previous posts I have come to realize that my line of thinking seems to be in the minority (which reflects to me the fault is in myself) I see all these great posts about women and men relating to and loving their female therapists and 'she is so great'...I just don't get it. I don't like women therapists and only see male therapists.
I have previously tried to work with female therapists but for numerous reasons it didn't work out--she talked too much about herself, it was blah blah blah oh I like your purse, cute lipstick, etc. I can definitely acknowledge the connection between my inability to trust women authority figures because of the emotional abandonment I went through growing up without a loving mother, but it makes me feel horrible to admit that I am actively discriminating against women in a professional field (especially because I myself am a medical professional)
Is this something problematic about myself that I should possibly try to change in the future? Or is it normal/ok for a person to have a preference of gender and just stick with whats comfortable for them? I just think maybe because I can't even imagine what it would be like to have a close caring relationship with my mother, that opening up and talking to another woman seems impossible for me to trust. I know therapy is supposed to be pushing me out of my comfort zone but I don't like the thought about trying to start a new therapy relationship with a woman therapist and telling her upfront that I already don't like her because of all these reasons!
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