Posted by TherapyGirl on July 21, 2009, at 17:40:18
In reply to However..., posted by Dinah on July 21, 2009, at 12:34:44
I definitely want to continue this discussion, Dinah, because I think you are onto something for both of us. My mother, too, prefers young kids, but she's really all done by the time they are 2 and can voice an opinion. As you may guess, she and I had very, very different opinions almost immediately. I think she tried until I was around 5 and then she just wrote me off because I couldn't be the daughter she wanted. I think for me, there was abuse all the way along, but it was combined with some love and attachment for those first few years.
And it has worked for me the same exact way with my T as it has with yours. I was completely unable to connect to others in any meaningful way until I met her (and about 4 years into my therapy). Since then, I have been able to make that connection to a few other people. I haven't figured out exactly the common ground yet, but for whatever reason, they all feel like family to me -- safe and warm and comfortable.
I want to think about this some more and definitely talk about it more.
P.S. Completely off topic, the local Beagle rescue group is probably going to agree to take my rescue on and let me foster him until I can make an informed decision about adopting him. YEA!!!!!!!!!!
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