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Re: My therapist fired me - follow up

Posted by Kim on July 8, 2009, at 22:09:42

In reply to Re: My therapist fired me-long but PLEASE HELP!, posted by pegasus on July 6, 2009, at 10:58:58

I saw my therapist today.
He said hi, called me into his office I just didnt say anything. Still feeling hurt and angry. Sat down and just looked at him. He said, Can I got first? And I said, Please.

Basically, he apologized all over the place. You were righthe showed me the message from his secretary and it said that I had called and canceled my appointment and didnt want to reschedule. Reality: It was my husband who called and he said I would call to reschedule. T said he was very surprised, but when he asked secretary about message she didnt remember anything about it.

His monthly appointment with his supervising therapist (do they all do that? Hes been in practice for over 30 yearsonce when I was suicidal and he let me leave with a promise that I wouldnt do anything, she told him that under the circumstances she wouldnt have let me go--) was the day after my next appointment would have been (3 days after I canceled) and he said they spent about 20 minutes talking about it and thought that if he called me or anything it could be seen as pressuring (you were right) and that since were all psych patients sometimes we do things for our own (strange) reasons and he should just accept it. He said that even though the letter was short (and curt) that he had spent probably an hour thinking about how to phrase it. (Of course I showed him my 5 pages of handwritten drafts, with arrows and boxes and notes all over them).

I just sat and listened for the most parthe hurt me and Im not ever malicious, but I just let him squirm. I guess I thought if he didn't see my reaction to what he was saying maybe hed feel a little bit like I did when I got his letter.

I listed all the reasons that it was a particularly bad time for me to get the letter, and that pretty much took up the whole hour; we never did talk about anything in the letter directly. He offered me appointments tomorrow or Monday, but my cars in the shop so Im not sure Ill have transportation until Wednesday, so we made an appointment for then a week earlier than usual.

He said he would never have written the letter if hed known it was my husband who called and not me. I told him I hoped he had asked his staff to be more careful about writing down who actually called and he said he would. (Ironythe secretary who screwed up the message is his daughter-in-law; not sure ifhe knows that I know that.)

So Im feeling less rejected but still disappointed that he would think Id leave without saying goodbye. I guess well discuss some of that next week.

I told him the only reason I rescheduled was because you had said I should, and he said to tell you all Thank you. He asked if I thought we could fix it, and I said I guess well have to see when I talk to him next week.

Thanks from me, too, if you hadnt taken the time to answer me I wouldnt have rescheduled and he wouldnt have known why. Im glad
you were more rational than I. Its made me realize how much people on this board really can help (most of my other posts have involved medications). So I will try to do more towards helping other people here.

Kim @--/---




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