Posted by Dinah on July 3, 2009, at 6:38:40
In reply to Re: About my assignment » Dinah, posted by Daisym on July 2, 2009, at 22:28:35
It does seem a bit like a power struggle, doesn't it? If I could be his shrink for a while I'd love to explore it.
On the other hand, he does think I'm stubborn sometimes, and this might be his attempt to work on that.
I used to make up stuff for confession too! Or, not precisely make it up but use the same general sins that I was pretty sure I always committed, but really wasn't sorry enough to confess since I wasn't really planning to stop sinning. Things like being mean to my brother or disrespectful to my parents. In any given confessional period, I figured I had been less than kind at least once. It was just too frequent confession for a child whose sins were generally not the overt kind to be easily recalled. I wasn't old enough to understand my more abstract sins.
When I was very young, my mother was the best sort of mother a kid could have on a day to day basis. She was not only a teacher, but she always taught along the same lines of personal responsibility and self efficacy as I associate now with Montessori. Looking back, I can see things she did that weren't fair to me or my father, and signs of the same things that led to my future conflict with her. But from a little kid point of view she was wonderful except when she was angry. But that wasn't all that often.
She was great at wise parenting and loved children.
I suppose all parenting techniques leave their own sort of scars though, as they interact with the individual personality of the child.
When I look back, I really don't have much to complain of in my parents' treatment of me when I was little. Whatever complaints I have had more to do with the environment they created, and their personal problems.
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