Posted by seldomseen on June 24, 2009, at 9:18:43
In reply to where to go from here, posted by onceupon on June 23, 2009, at 22:07:04
I bumped (or face planted if you choose to look at it that way) into the therapeutic boundary for a long time. It hurts - a lot.
But now that I am away from it a bit, I see it like a mourning period. On the surface I was mourning for what I would never get from my therapist, but in reality I was actually mourning for what I never got from my family.
It takes a long time to process that grief I think and it's easy to feel stuck in it.
As Dinah indicated, this might be a good time to think about where you want your therapy to go or if you should continue. These are also topics to talk to your therapist about.
Also, as a seasoned veteran of the dissertation writing, man, IMO, you have got to get that thing done. Finishing it will suck absolutely, but will allow you to get on with your life.
I feel quite confident in advising you that the suckiness of finishing it is a lot less sucky than having it *looming* over you all the time.
My motto was "don't think, just write" - quite the antithesis of what a dissertation is supposed to be, but, whatever, it worked for me and others on these boards.
I'll be here, feel free to babblemail me. I know dissertation pain. *shudder*