Posted by fayeroe on January 5, 2009, at 22:14:31
In reply to Re: It happened :-( {{Kath}} » Kath, posted by fayeroe on January 5, 2009, at 22:08:02
One thing about Al-Anon that I liked/hated was that a complete stranger could look across the table at me and tell me that I was full of **** and I took it. I was always full of excuses about why the kids did/didn't do this or that.
When I realized that what I thought was killing me hadn't killed other parents, I was able to calm down, step back and come up with a plan. And not with the kid...one without them that was set in concrete and THEN we discussed it.
Remember this, dear one, you never have to explain your decisions concerning your well being to a child who lives in your house. Your house, your rules.
Love ya, Pat
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