Posted by Wittgensteinz on December 7, 2008, at 5:49:42
In reply to Re: Memories - definite triggers » Wittgensteinz, posted by Dinah on December 6, 2008, at 12:19:29
Dinah,
I'm sorry if you felt in any way pressured to reply. I hope this wasn't the trigger/cause of your upset. I hope in any case that you are feeling better today.
It always hits me how wise and honest you are in what you write and how you reflect on things.
Strong reactions are difficult things - we can't ignore them but when there is nothing concrete underlying (or at least nothing we can remember) it creates an unpleasant mystery. I have the feeling you are for the most part in acceptance of these uncertainties and that's a positive thing for me to realise - that it is possible just to live with them and move on - accept that one just cannot know, rather than being held in suspended animation.
The perspective you have regarding ones interpretation of the events (dependent on a set of factors rather than the events themselves being important) is something I need to internalise. I still struggle with the question "do I have a right to feel this way" - and when I ask my T this, he will respond with "well that's part of the problem!".
> And kids don't really share their conclusions, do they?
*** No! It's hard being a kid - regardless of the circumstances. I hope you were able to reassure your son.
Thank you.
Witti
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